3 Leadership Lessons I Learned from My Mother

Leadership lessons I learned from my mother

I was five when I lost my father. It was my mother who brought me and my sister up.

She never worked until my father’s demise. Despite of that, she managed to take up a job grow in it and finally retire as the head of her department.

There’s a lot I learned from my mother when it comes to leadership.

I don’t claim to be a great leader, but the fact that even my old team members make it a point to drop me a line whenever something good happens, makes me believe that I may not be a bad one either!

A note from a former team member.
A note from a former team member.

When I look back now, I realize that I learnt a lot from how my mother handled me and my sister.

My sister Shyamali with her baby boy Harshit. She has an MBA in marketing and is a successful banker.
My sister Shyamali with her baby boy Harshit. She has an MBA in marketing and is a successful banker.

So without any further delay, here are some of the most important leadership lessons I learned from my mother.

A good leader never humiliates her team members

When we were growing up, it was quite OK to shout at your child in front of everyone. In fact, people used to whack their children without even giving it a second thought. No one really cared about what it did to the self-esteem of a child.

But my mother understood. She never scolded us in front of other people. Whatever she had to say she said it later, when we were alone.

Same goes while handling a team. I made it a point that whenever I need to provide feedback I do it in private and not in front of the other members of the team.

This one practice helped me to stay close to my team and help my team members improve without creating any negativity.

A good leader eats last

OK, I stole the title ofSimon Sinek’s latest book (sue me!). But this is one quality I always appreciated in my mother.

My Mom is an amazing cook. She used to serve these mouth-watering dishes, but always used to eat last. Sometimes we used to polish off everything, but that never bothered her. I could never understand why she would do that.

I figured out quite late that it was the satisfaction she got from making others happy.

Same goes when it comes to handling a team. You will be much happier if you credit your team first rather than trying to hog all the attention when something great happens. Trust me on this, if you can do this, your efforts will never go unnoticed.

A good leader never micromanages

If you were growing up in 90’s in a small town you had only two respectable career options Medicine or Engineering. Most of my classmates were pushed by their parents to take up ‘Science’ as a stream of study so they can become either a doctor or an engineer in the future. The rest took ‘Humanities’.

I was one of two boys from a class of 110 to take up ‘Commerce’.

While my mother made sure that we get a good education, she never tried to force her way in. To a great extent, this made me and my sister responsible individuals.

I always kept this lesson in my mind while dealing with a team. My focus always remained and will remain in making my team members responsible for their actions rather than controlling them. It worked very well for me and I am sure will work for you too.

You may feel that it’s a little silly of me trying to capture life lessons learned from parents in a simple post. However, these are few things that are always on top of my mind and thought will give it a go.

My mother and I
My mother and I

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